When a couple agrees it’s time to move, does
that mean the couple has the same house in mind? Here’s a simple exercise for
making sure you and your partner share a vision for your next home before the
search begins.
It
starts innocently enough one Saturday morning. Maybe you find yourself wishing
you could host family at your house. Maybe you’re already dreading the long
Monday morning commute. You look up at your partner and say: “You know, maybe
we should think about moving.” To your surprise you hear: “I’ve been thinking
the same thing. Let’s start looking tomorrow!”
Not
so fast! Knowing that you and your partner want to move isn’t enough to begin
your home search in earnest. Before you jump the gun and a start going to open
houses, it’s a good idea to determine what’s behind the desire to move. Is it
the neighborhood? Is it the commute? Is it the lack of space? If you don’t get
an idea what’s behind your urge for a new house, you could end up house hunting
with mismatched priorities.
Without
a mutual understanding, you can end up wasting a lot of time looking at homes
which don’t have a hope of satisfying your needs. Without articulating your
needs to one another, you could end up fighting without knowing why. Worse, you
might decide to spend more than you can afford in order to accommodate each
disparate desire.
Here’s
a simple exercise to ensure you share your home priorities with one another:
Step
1: Set time aside to separately make lists of the factors which inspired you to
consider moving. List your motivating likes and dislikes. Write them down, and
don’t share these with each other yet.
Step
2: List everything you’d like to have in your next home. Again, do this
separately. Be free, list everything. Be specific. Don’t hold back. Let it rip
to get the ideas flowing.
Step
3: Look at your list and draw a box around what you consider a NEED. After
that, draw a circle around everything that’s reasonable to WANT. Again, do this
alone.
Step
4: Rank your needs in order of importance. Rank your wants from highest to
lowest.
Step
5: Once you’ve created your list, get together with your partner and compare
lists. It’s unlikely everything will match up perfectly. Talk it out. See where
you can compromise.
Step
6: Make a third list together of ranked NEEDS / WANTS. Congrats! This is the
home you’re really looking for.
The final step?
Get in
touch with me to help you find that home! valeriemcconville@realtyexecutives.com
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