MAKING A NEW YOU IN THE NEW YEAR

The new year is here, and with it come the billions of small promises we all make to spark some change in our lives. For some it will be a brand new creative endeavor  For others it will be the abandonment of bad habit. Almost invariably, resolutions center on the formation or destruction of a habit. Habits are like compound interest. If you understand how to harness their power, the returns in the long run are enormous. But how do we support the willpower it requires to start and sustain a new habit?

An often overlooked tool in our quest for habit formation is the simple ritual. A ritual is a series of actions or behaviors followed without deviation. Though rituals are most often associated with religious ceremonies or family traditions, there’s increasing scientific evidence to suggest that rituals appear to benefit even people who claim not to believe that rituals work. Rituals have also been shown to alleviate grief after loss and help enhance confidence before sporting events.

Rituals can serve as an excellent “boot up” routine for a new habit. As most gym rats will tell you, the hardest part of most people’s workout is putting on their shoes. But the act of putting on the gym clothes, preparing your sports drink, and printing out your lifting routine can become a powerful ritual which gets you in the mindset for your workout and puts you on automatic pilot.

Some rituals don’t have to be directly related to a habit we want to build or break. For instance, you might decide to start each day by sitting down at the kitchen table and drinking a large glass of ice cold water. The act of drinking the water might simply be a moment to reflect on and remind yourself of your commitments, “filling you up” with willpower. What rituals do you have in your life? Where are there opportunities to create new rituals?

Here’s hoping your rituals serve you well in the new year!

Valerie McConville

CELEBRATING NEW YEAR'S EVE WITH CHILDREN

Partying until midnight may not be in the cards for you come New Year's Eve if you have small children.  But that doesn't mean you can't have a great time ringing in the New Year!  Kids can get in on the fun, too; you will just have to make your plans for earlier in the evening and modify them a bit for a young audience.

A Geography Lesson

Wherever you live, choose a location that celebrates New Year's Eve earlier than you.  For people on the West Coast, this can simply mean celebrating along with those on the East Coast.  But if you are in New York and can't wait for the ball to drop, consider celebrating along with the people of Brazil or Portugal instead; they will celebrate the New Year three to four hours before the East Coast of the United States.

Take some time to learn about the place you are choosing and ring in the New Year with some fun food and treats from that place.  Your adjusted New Year's party can be educational and fun too!

Something Sparkling

Instead of champagne, pour some glasses of sparkling apple cider for your “midnight” toast!  Kids will love having this drink that seems grown up, but is free of alcohol and tastes like apple juice!  Buy some plastic disposable champagne cups, too, in order to add to the special nature of the treat.

Hats And Noisemakers

There's nothing kids love more than dressing up and making a lot of noise!  Get out those paper New Year's party hats and pass them around, and make sure everything has a noisemaker to blow in celebration.  Just don't pass them out too early, or you might be tired of hearing them long before the party reaches its climax!  Everyone can join in the countdown together and make plenty of noise in celebration.

Once the kids are in bed, you can ring in the New Year with some real champagne if you like, but a little early celebration will turn this usually adult holiday into a fun occasion for your children as well.  With a few treats and the chance to make a lot of noise without reprimand, this is sure to be a favorite holiday tradition for any child!

NEW YEAR'S EVE DECORATING IDEAS

On December 31 of every year, the world celebrates New Year's Eve.  Resolutions for the coming year, the feeling of a fresh start and the notion that anything is possible are all common as another year approaches.  Because this day is so special to many around the nation, it's often celebrated with a party.  And what party would be complete without the proper decorations?  Here are some ways to make your New Year's Eve celebration fittingly festive:

Do You Have The Time?

A New Year's Eve celebration would not be complete without a clock.  After all, the evening's events all lead up to one great countdown that rings in the New Year, so make sure that your party features a large clock that's big enough for every guest to see from a distance.  It should have an hour, minute and second hand so that you can host your own countdown to the New Year with everyone present.

Ring In The New Year Everywhere

Depending on where you are, it may be possible to watch live televised coverage of others as they ring in the New Year before you.  For instance, those located on the west coast or even in the central states can watch everyone on the east coast celebrate the New Year before they do.  This is often a fun way to lead up to your own time zone celebration, so be sure to include a television for all of your guests to watch throughout the party.

Popular Decorations

With New Year's Eve comes streamers, confetti, balloons and plenty of other colorful decorations.  This means that you absolutely must incorporate color into your decorating theme.  Another popular accent is an automatic bubble machine, which is always a crowd pleaser at any party.

Have A Seat

If your New Year's Eve party includes dinner, be sure to decorate each place-setting accordingly.  Tablecloths should be crisp white in color and beautifully adorned with elegant dinnerware and flatware.  At each setting, include a disposable camera, party hats, a small bag of confetti and a miniature bubble set.  These will be ideal for your guests to capture all of evening's special moments on film and still be able to participate in the festivities.

Putting Your Best Foot Forward

Most New Year's Eve parties feature dancing, so put your best foot forward when it comes to decorating your dance floor.  People love to dance and having the perfect setting will help everyone to enjoy your party even more.

A PRAYER FOR THE HOLIDAYS

As we enjoy the holiday season, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the season when family and friends gather, and the big picture in terms of how we're all expected to get along on this increasingly crowded planet of ours.

The holidays often put people around the table who may not normally see one another throughout the year. Far flung relatives, cousins, in-laws, and other guests-of-guests may come from all walks of life. Their political, religious, and social viewpoints may differ widely from our own. Yet when we see them during the holidays, we do our best to tolerate differences. Ideally, we look for ways to connect rather than provoke arguments.

Tolerance is not always the easiest value to embrace. Now, especially, we can find ourselves thrust into polemic arguments driven by political and media forces which command enormous attention and influence. Social media and a profound lack of face-to-face interaction makes it easier to distance ourselves from our mutual, essential humanity if we let it. It is easy to be intolerant. Easy to erect high walls. Easier than ever to segment and align ourselves with only those who agree with our values and sense of our role the world.

I would gently urge everyone to see the holidays as more than a time to buy gifts, give thanks for our blessings, and eat sweet treats. Let us remember to practice tolerance, acceptance, and recognize the importance of diversity in this world.

In closing, I would like to extend my warmest wishes to you and your family and truly hope that you have a HAPPY AND JOYFUL HOLIDAY SEASON.

With hope and gratitude,

Valerie McConville

FIVE TIPS FOR A BETTER CLOSING DAY

Buying a home can be a long process. The last thing you want after all your time spent searching for homes and getting the best mortgage rate is to have everything go wrong on closing day. 

Here are five tips that’ll ensure it goes smoothly.

1. Schedule a date that works best for you: You have every right to request the closing take place at an ideal time for you, and the other parties in the transaction will usually work with you to make it happen. 

Whether it’s timing the closing around a pay date or the end of a lease, the first step is finding a date that minimizes stress or conflicts.

2. Clarify your payment: Many title companies do not accept personal checks, so give yourself a few days to get a cashier’s check or set up a wire transfer.

3. Double check insurance: You’ll need to arrange for a title insurance policy for your mortgage and purchase homeowner’s insurance (plus flood or earthquake insurance, depending on the area). Make sure your policy begins by your closing date.

4. Do a final walk-through: You’d be surprised to find that buyers skip this step! Schedule a final walkthrough to ensure that all requested repairs have been made and everything is in working order.

5. Take action based on walk-through: If any issues are identified, you may need to delay closing or negotiate a discount before the closing date to avoid delays.

UP-SIZING YOUR HOME

Unfortunately our homes don’t always grow with us. What may have initially worked fine for a single person, a young couple’s starter home, or a family with a newborn can quickly become too small as families expand and multiple generations live under one roof.

Remodeling and adding to your home is one option for creating more space, but it can be costly, and the size of your property may be prohibitive. That’s when moving to a bigger home becomes the best solution.

WHERE DO YOU NEED MORE SPACE?

The first thought when upsizing your home is to simply consider square footage, bedrooms, and bathrooms. But it’s important to take a more critical approach to how your space will actually be used. If you have younger children (or possibly more on the way), then focusing on bedrooms and bathrooms makes sense. But if your children are closer to heading off to college or starting their own families, it may be better to prioritize group spaces like the kitchen, dining room, living room, and outdoor space—it’ll pay off during the holidays or summer vacations, when everyone is coming to visit for big gatherings.

MOVING OUTWARD

If you need more space, but don’t necessarily want a more expensive home, you can probably get a lot more house for your money if you move a little further from a city center. While the walkability and short commutes of a dense neighborhood or condo are hard to leave beyond, your lifestyle—and preferences for hosting Thanksgiving, barbecues, and birthdays—might mean that a spacious home in the suburbs makes the most sense. It’s your best option for upsizing while avoiding a heftier price tag.

YOUR PUPPY-WELCOMING SHOPPING LIST

Bringing home a puppy means a guaranteed influx of excitement and cuteness in your home, but it also means you’ll need a lot of patience, commitment, and important supplies. 

If you’re thinking about getting a puppy, these items should be at the top of your shopping list.

1. Leash: Your puppy needs exercise, but won’t have the discipline to keep from running off. Puppies are still developing strength, so look for a lightweight leash.

2. Crate: Crate training is a common, effective method for house training your pup, plus a crate provides a safe, comfortable place for your puppy at night. 

3. Safe toys: Much like babies, puppies are susceptible to choking hazards, including toys. Make sure any toys you purchase for your puppy are appropriate for its age.

4. Food and water bowls: It may come as a surprise, but you should buy bowls that are chew-proof and designed for canines. Puppies often chew on their bowls and cheap, chewed-up plastic can harbor harmful bacteria.

5. Bath supplies: Beyond the obvious items like shampoo, you can make bath time more enjoyable for you and your pet with a dog dryer, which is less messy and better for your pet than using towels or human hair dryers.

STAY SAFE THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

People love the holiday season. To keep your holiday decorations enjoyable and safe, keep in mind these safety tips.

Candles: Keep anything flammable away from a lit candle. Place the candles out of the reach of children or pets. Blow out the candles when you need to leave the room or go to bed.

Christmas tree: Water the tree to keep it hydrated. Place the tree away from any heat sources. Make sure the tree is not blocking entryways or foot traffic. Hang fragile Christmas ornaments on higher tree branches away from the reach of children and pets. Turn off lights before going to bed.

Electric lights: Lights will be labeled for either indoor or outdoor use. Throw out lights with worn or torn wires. Replace missing or cracked bulbs. Read labels to make sure you are following acceptable wattage levels and are not overloading the circuits.

Outdoor decorations: Fully secure outdoor holiday decorations so they don’t get blown away or stolen. Put lights and fans on a timer so you don’t forget to turn them off. Use waterproof electrical connectors.

Ladders: Ensure your safety by making sure ladders are on level and sturdy ground. They must also be able to support not only your weight, but the weight of the decorations.

Holiday plants: Be sure to keep plants such as mistletoe or poinsettia away and out of the reach of your pets.

Cleaning up: After the holidays, check with your city or waste management company to see if they have a tree recycling program. Carefully take down outdoor decorations and inspect them for damage.

Have a great holiday!

TIPS FOR A STRESS-LESS HOLIDAY SEASON

Traditionally December is a time for get-togethers with friends and family, celebrations and travel. It is supposed to be an enjoyable time of year. Yet surprisingly, many people feel stressed during the holiday season.

How do you make sure that stress doesn’t get in the way of an otherwise pleasant month? Here are some tips that will help.

• When entertaining, prepare meals well in advance and keep them warm. That way, you won’t be rushing at the last minute and you’ll be able to relax with your guests.

• When travelling, expect that things are going to be busy and plan accordingly. If you’re flying, for example, get to the airport early. If you’re driving, give yourself plenty of time to get there and take regular breaks along the way.

• Keep your to-do list short. Don’t do in December what can easily be put off until January.

• If you have guests staying over, don’t be an innkeeper. Invite them to helpthemselves to breakfast, snacks, etc. Show them where fresh towels and linens are kept. Make them feel at home.

• Avoid a tight schedule. December is already a busy time. The less you stress, the more you’ll enjoy the season!

SMARTPHONE SECURITY: BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR BLUETOOTH SETTINGS

Bluetooth offers great wireless convenience for your smartphone, allowing you to connect to your headphones, car stereo, wireless speaker, and other devices without dealing with a tangle of cords and wires. However, most of us aren’t careful enough when it comes to Bluetooth security.

As a general rule, you should turn Bluetooth off on your phone whenever you’re not connected to a device. Forgetting to turn it off will reduce your battery life because it continues to drain power even when there’s no device connected. But, there are even more serious concerns than that.

New hacker technologies, called “Blueborne” can scan for open Bluetooth connections and gain access to your device. Once a device has been hacked, it can then be used to gain access to additional devices. It’s not limited to one manufacturer either. Samsung, Google, Apple, and several car audio systems have all shown vulnerabilities.

So as a best practice, follow these two tips:

1. Keep your phone updated. When Apple or Android releases an update, it’s not just for new operating system features—it also patches security issues.

2. Make it a habit to turn off Bluetooth. As soon as you step out of your car or power down your headphones, you should turn off the Bluetooth on your phone. If nothing else, your battery will last a little longer.

FIVE SECRET WEAPONS FOR DIY PROJECTS

Is there a home maintenance project that’s been lingering on your to-do list for too long because you’re dreading the trip to the hardware or craft store?

There are some projects you can tackle with items that are almost certainly already in your home.

1. Vinegar: There’s probably a jug of vinegar in your pantry right now. You can soak items in vinegar to remove mineral deposits (like in a clogged showerhead), and you can boil vinegar in your microwave to remove odors and make it easier to clean.

2. Cola: A can of Coke or Pepsi can be used to clean many surfaces, including your glass windows, porcelain toilet, or chrome fixtures. Just do some research before using it on metal surfaces, as it can be corrosive.

3. Baking soda: This item may actually be more useful for applications other than baking. A baking soda-vinegar paste is great for cleaning bathrooms and kitchens. Baking soda can also be used to absorb odors.

4. Butter knife: Screwdrivers are easy to misplace. If can’t find a screwdriver when you need one, a butter knife—preferably an older one that you no longer need for table setting—is pretty effective for both Phillips- and flat-head screws.

5. Toothpaste: Is there an unsightly scratch on your car or bike? The grit in tarter-control toothpastes makes for an effective scratch remover. Clean the scratch, apply some toothpaste, let it sit for a few minutes, and then buff it out with paper towel.

AMERICAN THANKSGIVING THOUGHTS

TO MY AMERICAN FRIENDS,

Here we are again in the season of holiday traditions. We travel. We gather. We see those we haven’t seen in ages as well as those we see every day. We take time to remember the ones who could not make the trip, and honor the memory of those who we will never see again.

It is not always easy. We have different values and different politics. Our views do not always align, and at times they clash. And yet we almost always find a way to make it through a meal with love, forbearance, and a reminder to hold tight to what we share, not the least of which is the commonality of our basic humanity.

It goes to show there is profound power when we get around the table to see one another. When we meet eye-to-eye and pass the plates around, we reinforce the bonds which matter the most. I know it is not always possible.

Sometimes loved ones serve abroad. Sometimes hardship and tragedy prevent us from joining together. If this is the case for you this year, you have my most sincere hopes that you are able to be together as soon as possible.

Let us never forget that in addition to the comfort and shelter our homes provide, they are also made to be opened, to host and share. Let us never forget how essential it is to get around a table.

Warm thoughts to you and yours,

Valerie McConville

TAKING THE DREAD OUT OF THANKSGIVING CLEANING

Does the thought of cleaning the kitchen after your Thanksgiving dinner loom large, casting a shadow over your celebration? Here are some tips for easing the burden!

Thanksgiving is a perfect holiday to showcase your home. Every room in the house is part of the entertainment, from the warmth of the kitchen to the elegance of the dining room. There’s nothing quite like hosting your first Thanksgiving. 

Unfortunately, there’s nothing quite like cleaning up the mess which accompanies a Thanksgiving meal. From crusty roasting pans to a dozen side dishes, the feat of restoring your kitchen to its gleaming glory can take longer than preparing the food! (And let’s not forget… those guests will be much less eager to help once the turkey and pie put them out on the couch dozing.) Don’t dread the aftermath… prepare yourself with these clutch ideas for a quicker clean up!

1. Clear your refrigerator. There will be leftovers… will you have room to store them? Before you begin to cook, eat, freeze, or compost what can be dispensed with in your fridge to make room for the onslaught of turkey and sides. This will save you the frustrating mid-cleaning task of finding cold storage space. What’s more, having the leftovers organized will prevent you from discovering moldy mashed potatoes in the new year!

2. Line everything in advance. You don’t have to scrub tin foil. Roasting pans should be lined with foil, as should your garbage cans. Slip bags on top of bags so you can quickly rip out the full ones and leave an empty one underneath.

3. Don’t soak in the sink. Soaking is a good idea, but you don’t need to occupy your kitchen’s central cleaning station with a tower of filthy dishes. Fill a surplus garbage can with hot, soapy water and use this “temporary sink” to soften up the gunk.

4. Assign sides. Nothing says you have to cook everything. If you’re comfortable with the idea, ask your guests to bring a side, or assign specific sides to willing family members. (Make sure they go home with their own dirty serving dish!)

5. Bake, serve, and store in the same dish. Many modern casserole dishes come with silicone storage covers and are classy enough to bring to the table. Don’t double or triple your work. Before the big day, consider replacing some filthy old pyrex with these updated bake-serve-and-store options.

Follow these tips to maximize your relaxation and time with friends and family. It’ll make every bite taste that much better.

SAVE ON ENERGY BILLS THIS SEASON

Use these tips to decrease your energy bills and stay warm for the holidays.

Use the sun. Open the curtains during the day to heat your house naturally.

Rearrange furniture. Move furniture away from exterior walls to avoid sitting in drafts.

Use fabrics. Cover hardwood floors with area rugs to reduce chill. Use throw blankets and wear warm clothing rather than turning up the heater.

Seal out the cold. Check and repair sealant around windows, doors, chimneys and air vents to prevent cold air from seeping indoors.

Become water-efficient. Turn down the temperature on your water heater. Do as much laundry as possible in cold water. Take short showers.

Disconnect. Unplug any electronic devices or utilities when you’re not using them. Electronics still use energy when plugged in, even if they’re turned off.

Deck the halls. Use LED lights to decorate. They are more energy-efficient and will cost less for your holiday cheer.

Reduce temperatures. Program your thermostat to cool by 10-15 degrees while you sleep. Use your heater as a last resort.

Use your fireplace. Keep the flue and damper closed when your fireplace is not in use. Add a glass door to keep warm air from escaping. Turn down your thermostat when the fireplace is in use.

Update insulation. Make sure your home’s insulation is up-to-date and efficient. Investing in proper insulation now saves you big heating expenses later.

Stay warm this season

REMEMBERING OUR VETERANS

Today marks the start of Veterans' Week both in Canada and the United States. I am sure that many of you know why November is so significant.

On the 11th hour of the 11th day of November in 1918, World War One ended. Arguably the most terrible war the modern world had witnessed to date was finally over. Few souls on Earth went untouched in some way by the war. So many served, so many died, and so many took the scars of their experience home with them and did their best to get on with life. All had hoped there would never be cause for such sacrifice in the future.

Of course we know the call came again and again. And despite full knowledge of the challenges, horrors, and heartbreaking losses, brave men and women answered the call. They have done so because they accept what it means to serve and defend our most deeply held shared values.  

This upcoming Veterans Day / Remembrance Day I hope you will join me in a spirit of gratitude for veterans everywhere. I believe each of us can see our way to hold them in our minds— those we know personally and those we have never known. If you see a veteran, thank them. If you know the family of a veteran, help them. Let us pay homage with pride.

With gratitude,

Valerie McConville

HOMEOWNER'S HALLOWEEN HORRORS?

Not if you follow these Safety Tips

As Halloween creakily creeps around the cob webbed corner, many of our thoughts will be on decorating, pumpkin carving and costume making.

But, before the parade of ghosts and witches comes knocking on your door, here's a helpful list of things that you can do to keep your home and yard safe for all those anxious trick-or-treaters.

Clear your yard of ladders, hoses, leashes, flower pots, low tree limbs, support wires and anything that could cause someone to trip.

• Be sure to keep your outdoor steps, porch and walkways well lit.

• Use battery powered jack o'lantern candles instead of a real flame.

• If you do use candles, keep them away from where trick or treaters will be walking or standing.

• Dried flowers, cornstalks and crepe paper are highly flammable. Make sure paper or cloth yard decorations can't blow into a flaming candle.

• Consider fire safety when decorating. Don't overload electrical outlets with holiday lighting or special effects.

• Remember to keep exits clear of decorations.

• Remind all household drivers to remain cautious and drive slowly through the community.

• This is also a great time to install fresh batteries in your home smoke alarms.

Don't Let Your Pets Get Spooked!

Halloween can be a traumatic even dangerous experience for some pets. Here are some sensible tips to protect your pet on Halloween:

Don't leave your pet out in the yard on Halloween. To a menacing prankster, an unguarded pet could be an easy target.

Halloween candy is not for pets. Chocolate is poisonous to a lot of animals, and foil or cellophane wrappers can be hazardous if swallowed.

Be careful that pets can't knock over a lit pumpkin. Curious kittens especially run the risk of getting burned.

Don't dress your pet in costume unless you know he loves it. Otherwise, it puts a lot of stress on the animal.

If you do dress your pet, make sure the costume isn't constricting, annoying or unsafe. Be careful not to obstruct her vision!

All but the most social dogs should be kept in a separate room during trickortreating hours too many strangers in unusual costumes can be scary for a dog.

Be careful your cat or dog doesn't dart out through the open door.

TIPS FOR ADDING A BATHROOM TO YOUR HOME

Scrambling for bathroom space in your home? Wish you had a second shower for guests or a new tub for kids? Here’s what you’ll need to consider when expanding your home’s bathroom options.

Have you been living with a single-bathroom home? Is the time here to consider adding an extra full-bathroom or “water closet” to your existing layout? First, know that of all the renovations you can make to a single-bathroom home, adding an extra bathroom is one of the soundest investments you can make. 

With rare exception, the money you put into a second bathroom should pay handsomely when you list your house in the future. The bathroom is one of the most-used rooms in your home and it can have a profound impact on how prospective buyers see your home in the future once you’re ready to move on. 

If you’ve been curious about the process or want to make the leap two a two-bathroom home without relocating, you’ll want to keep some tips in mind about this special renovation project.  

1. Think about where you can add a bathroom versus where you think it’s ideal. You’ll want to identify where your existing water and waste lines are in the home. Adding a bathroom across the house ups the complexity and expense.

2. Single-story homes with crawl spaces have a bit more flexibility for adding a bathroom since crawl spaces provide easy access for running plumbing lines. If you have a two-story house, aligning your new bathroom (either upstairs or down) with your existing one can ease plumbing challenges.

3. Adding a tub can add value, especially if you suspect future buyers might have children.

4. Natural light and ventilation are a big plus. While fans are common and should be installed, being able to draw in sunlight or air out a bathroom via an exterior wall can really upgrade the luxury feel.

5. Always get the proper permits for work and only collaborate with licensed and bonded contractors. You want to make sure you’re covered in the event of any problems and you’ll definitely want to be able to show future buyers that your work is legit and up to code.

6. Choose high-end design fixtures where possible, especially if the bathroom is small. Innovative luxury options can make the room feel larger and really add that “wow” factor. Some nice-to-have options include a towel warmer and separating the toilet from the rest of the room via a “water closet” partitioning. Go with neutral palettes and classic tiles for a timeless effect. You can always jazz up the space with rugs, towels, or other bath accessories.

If adding a bathroom sounds like more hassle than it’s worth, you might want to consider your next move! Your local REALTOR® would be happy to help you find a home with your dream bathroom already included! Contact an agent today!

REFLECTING LIGHT IN EVERYDAY LIFE

If you feel yourself overwhelmed from time to time by the darkness in the world, be it from current events in the news, or personal struggles, I wanted to offer some encouragement today that might lighten the burden.

The American writer Edith Wharton once wrote, “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” Even when we find ourselves with so little light to share, the one thing sure to enhance our defense against the darkness is reflecting the light we encounter. When we act as a mirror, amplifying the light, we light the way for others.

In that spirit, here are seven simple ways to cast or reflect light:

1. Send a simple, honest compliment out of the blue.

2. Give people hope through direct assistance.

3. Introduce someone to a helpful resource.

4. Provide pathways to free education and hands-on learning.

5. Introduce two of your friends who do not know one another yet.

6. Include people in efforts for common (or community) good.

7. Find opportunities to be a good listener.

The next time you despair, rouse your waning energy to attempt one of these seven small acts. Though they may not solve all of your problems, or reverse the course of the world, they will give you a lift and light your way forward.

All the best,

Valerie McConville

HOW TO PROTECT YOUR REPUTATION ON LINE

Why do so many online conversations turn toxic? What’s the best way to stay engaged with the good while steeling ourselves against the trolls? 

Here are some tips I use to protect myself and my reputation online. Maybe they’ll help you gain a little perspective, too.

In our age of nearly instantaneous communication, we find ourselves paradoxically with exponentially more opportunities to make fools of ourselves. With every Tweet, Facebook update, Instagram comment, bulk email, accidental “reply to: all,” blog post (and blog comment), we have countless opportunities to stick our feet squarely in our mouths.

What’s even more daunting is how the lack of face-to-face communication makes it easier to be outright negative. How many times have you come across blog and Facebook comments that no one in their right mind would say to someone in person?

Character and integrity matter as much as they always have, especially in the professional world of real estate. I try to keep this in mind as I interact online, and perhaps some tips I use as guidelines for civil, friendly discourse online can help you, too.

For example:

1. Ignore spam; delete and move on. Most of the time, it’s not even a human that has spammed your mailbox or blog… it’s a program, or “robot” and your effort in responding is a waste. (Like shouting into a dial tone!)

2. Do not feel compelled to respond to all negative comments. Let them hang in the air or delete them if you can’t stomach it. But don’t feel every negative comment is an occasion to speak. Remember: Engaging trolls also legitimizes them. Do you want that?

3. Do not engage in point-by-point arguments. They sap your energy and produce nothing. People aren’t interested in seeing you “dismantle” someone’s opinion online. These debates quickly turn into personal attacks that can get ugly.

4. Acknowledge differences without creating enemies. Ask yourself: How would I respond in an office meeting? An open house? Find a way to acknowledge your difference in opinion without making a fight about it.  Do you have to be “offended” by a difference of opinion? Of course not.

Staying above the storm is a mark of integrity.  It shows you know how to keep a cool head and it also gives you more authority when you do weigh in on an issue.  

I read somewhere that the Eagle is the only bird that, in order to avoid the rain, starts flying above the cloud. It’s too easy to get caught in the storm online. Choose instead to fly high! 

Feel free to email me at: valeriemcconville@gmail.com

AN ADVISOR'S DISCERNMENT

Discernment, (according to Wikipedia) is defined as “the ability to obtain sharp perceptions or to judge well (or the activity of so doing).” Furthermore “considered as a virtue, a discerning individual is considered to possess wisdom, and be of good judgement; especially so with regard to subject matter often overlooked by others.”

A byproduct of our technologically-accelerated times is the pressure to form and share opinions rapidly. Facebook posts must be reacted to, comments are written on the fly, and tweets get launched in response to issues even as they are just breaking into the news cycle. It is as if there is some unspoken fear that silence is the same as acquiescence. Silence is inaction.

Of course this is an absurd way to live one’s life. Silence is the space in which we practice discernment. More often than not, a pressured response will lead to misrepresentation or simplification of our views. Why be handcuffed by knee-jerk reactions? We must learn to admit we may not know how we feel about a subject, or what we believe is the best course of action.

As a real estate professional, my judgment is central to my effectiveness, reputation, and ability to best serve my clients. Among buyers and sellers, no small portion of my value lies in my ability to be steady, see clearly, and instill confidence while I help you navigate complex property issues. 

The next time you feel the pressure to react to an issue or commit to a stance, remember that a rash declaration or decision may ultimately work against you. More than ever we need people who place emphasis on discernment.

  

Respectfully,

Valerie McConville

DEALING WITH INEVITABLE CHANGE

Do you find yourself unsettled by uncertainty in your job, neighborhood, or housing market? Are you looking for ways to anticipate change and flow with the times? Here are some strategies to help you cope with the inevitable and prepare for “what’s next.”

These days it can feel like everything is subject to dramatic and sudden change. If you’ve found yourself unsure how to live well in the face of “technological disruption” or other macro forces in the media and the markets, perhaps some perspective will help.

Most anger and anxiety around upheaval and uncertainty comes from fear. “Where do I fit in?” “How will I adapt?” Sometimes this fear blossoms into full-blown denial. Denial includes a refusal to accept the changes happening before our eyes, an unwillingness to learn about future possibilities, and self-soothing stories which assure us that all will remain basically the same.

Instead, you might do well to enhance your mindset perspective. Here are five tactics to help you prepare:

1. Look at patterns in other areas. Though there is no “one size fits all” for radical change, there are lessons to be learned from recent history. Understanding big shifts in other industries, markets, or countries may help you get a feel for how your world may change.

2. Recognize when you’re in the echo chamber. Many established players will tell you what you want to hear: “Don’t panic, everything’s fine.” It can be alluring to listen to those voices who say “change is overblown” or “we’re in a unique industry, immune to many of the changes.”

3. Seek contrary opinions. Find out who holds different values. Listen to the arguments they have for revolutionizing the world or urging for reforms, even if it threatens your “normal.” You may disagree, but you can’t rationally evaluate your options if you keep your head in the sand.

4. Avoid catastrophizing. Catastrophizing “is an irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is.” (Learn more here: https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-catastrophizing/) Even sea changes take time. Many predictions are too dire and unrealistic. Don’t let your fears drive your actions. Be smarter about your feelings.

5. Don’t fall victim to excessive nostalgia. We have a tendency to romanticize and simplify the past, giving ourselves the luxury of rose-colored glasses. Take time to appreciate the upside of change. Wishing for a time machine is a sure-fire way to remain paralyzed.

Yes, adapting to these changes can be a challenge. But take heart. You are more resilient than you might realize.

WHY A HOME MAY LOOK TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE

Home investors are always looking to make a nice profit on the homes they flip. Sometimes this leads unscrupulous renovators to make cosmetic upgrades which hide ugly problems. Here’s how to protect yourself.

When inventory is tight and newly renovated homes are wooing prospective buyers, you need to take a step back and remember that the home you’re hunting for is a long-term investment. 

While futuristic appliances and gleaming hardwood floors may seduce you into making a quick offer, understand that there’s much more to a home than what lies on the surface.

Investors who renovate homes want to maximize their profit as quickly as possible. While many are upstanding folks, there are those out there who will cut corners in order to boost their return. Sometimes when a home is renovated, an investor will do a “lipstick flip.” Basically this means fixing up what’s cosmetic and leaving the rest as-is. Paint, flooring, appliances, fixtures… all may get a tune-up. But this doesn’t necessarily take into account foundation issues, leaks, plumbing problems, and work performed without permits.

Once buyers close on a home, they’re responsible for the home. This includes issues which may be costly to repair or remain simply unsafe for habitation. This is why it’s vitally important you take the necessary steps to protect yourself before signing off. Here are some tips to prevent the headache and heartache of a bad “lipstick flip” home:

• Do not waive the inspection. In addition to the usual areas, have inspections for exposed wiring in the attic and mold. Include a termite inspection.

• Ask for a complete list of all work done with receipts for the work. 

• For all work done, make sure the seller used a licensed contractor.

• Ensure the work on the home passed inspection and is up to code. Request a copy of the certificate of occupancy.

• Ask the seller for a current disclosure statement, as required by law.

If the seller balks at these requests, it may be necessary to pass on the home. If issues come up during inspection, you may change your mind about the home, or you may negotiate for repairs or closing credits, depending on your agent’s advice.

Don’t worry, not all flipped homes are money pits. But a trusted real estate advisor can help you be certain that you don’t get burned! Looking for a home? Connect with a real estate professional today!

GET YOUR HOME READY FOR FALL

As the warm months of summer come to an end, consider these quick — but important — home maintenance tasks to finish before fall:

1. Check window seals. Examine the edges of your windows to ensure the caulk shows no gaps. You can tell if a window needs new glaze by lightly tapping the window pane. If it rattles in its frame, new glaze needs to be applied, which will save on your heating bill come fall.
2. Swap out summer plants. Transition your yard from the high maintenance flowers of summer to more hardy plants that will survive the first frost. Good plants for cool weather include pansies and garden mums. Also, now is a good time to prepare for spring blossoms, so plant your tulip and daffodil bulbs.
3. Safety check your chimney. If you have a chimney, regular maintenance is a must to ensure safety. Have it professionally cleaned and inspected this year, and don’t forget to gather enough firewood to get the season started!
4. Inspect smoke and carbon monoxide detectors. Dangerous carbon monoxide leaks can lead to serious harm when a home is sealed up as it is during cold weather. House fires are most likely to occur during the cold months when people use candles, Christmas trees and fireplaces. Make sure your safety detectors are in proper working order before the cold weather arrives, and rest easy.
5. Store outdoor items. Do a clean sweep of your yard, tidying away garden hoses and patio furniture for next year. This gives your curb appeal a boost and also helps you avoid frozen hoses and moldy furniture later in the season.

Are you thinking of selling this fall? Give your local REALTOR® a call! He or she will discuss with you what else you can do to get your home ready to sell.